How to have a happy marriage: 10 powerful secrets
Everybody on this planet wants to have a happy marriage. Unfortunately, sometimes marriages get less happy with the time.
I have a chart to explain my point that marital happiness gets down over a period of time.
But, don’t pay much attention to this depressing chart. It has nothing to do with your marriage as ‘your marriage’ is rocking ‘as it was’ when ‘you were newly and happily married’.
Life is full of twists and turns. But if you’re together in a marriage and search for companionship in one another, then you can make your life’s journey worthwhile.
So, the search for happiness in a marriage isn’t tough, provided you are willing to work for it.
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person” – Mignon McLaughlin
When you get married, it seems that leading a happy married life is like a cakewalk. Unfortunately, it is not. You need to work hard and sacrifice many things to achieve that.
Now, in order to achieve that feat, follow the 10 powerful secrets to have a happy marriage.
First of all, expect less.
You might become unhappy if your expectations aren’t met, and in a marriage or relationship, they often lead to resentments.
If these resentments are not resolved or left un-communicated, they can lead to a break up in a marriage or relationship.
Yes, having fewer expectations helps, but that is curbing your own desires and not realistic. It helps to live in the moment with lower expectations of the future and finding happiness in those moments.
Try to find solutions.
If you are having problems in your marriage, which is very common, then serious issues need time to heal. And if things go out of hand, you need counseling or intervention from third parties.
I also have my shares of ups and downs; though I took care to resolve it quick. Sometimes my superwoman takes longer to understand and it takes time to resolve issues, but then you need to keep working on it.
Remember, if there is a melt-down or argument, you need to find solutions to your problems quickly!
Understand the problem, and find solutions to those problems so that they don’t occur again. Forgive and forget, and move on to live a happy married life.
Make a habit to talk often.
Keep your channels of communication open and learn to listen more.
Don’t leave things unsaid because poor communication leads to problems in relationships. Instead, voice your problems rather than sharing them with outsiders.
Don’t always talk about your feelings, wants or need. Learn to listen to what your partner desires, and be honest with them.
Try to be responsible.
You are responsible for your own happiness. So, don’t blame your partner for your unhappiness that often leads to misunderstandings.
Being partners you tend to get affected by one another, but you need to work your way out of that and seek happiness within yourself and in your relationship or marriage.
Don’t force change.
Don’t force changes on your partner, or expect them to become what you want them to be. Each one has their own way of working, so offer your support and trust them to make the right decisions.
Give your 100%.
Strive to be your best every day. This also includes being polite, gentle, kind, warm, and sensitive towards one another.
Treat your partner as a special person, just the way you did when you got married or when you were dating. Get those moments back to find happiness between yourselves.
These were the important keys to happiness in marriage. I’m sure by now you know what makes a happy marriage and how to actually achieve it.
Focus on each other’s strengths.
It’s not always easy to see past minor annoyances, and at times you may even hate your partner. But to have a happy marriage you have to accept your partner’s strengths and weaknesses and be able to set realistic expectations.
Do things together and have fun together.
While it’s important to not fully depend on your partner in order to maintain a happy marriage, it’s also necessary to share common experiences.
Be kind to one another.
To keep things happy within the marriage, avoid attacking your partner’s character when you’re upset. For example, don’t say “you’re such a slob! You never clean up your dishes.” Instead, try saying something like, “Because I made dinner, I’d really appreciate if you could do the dishes tonight.” See how much nicer that sounds?
Communication is the key.
Talking about relationships is good for your relationship. You don’t even have to talk about your relationship, necessarily.
To Sum Up.
No marriage is perfect because each one has its own shares of good and bad times, but many are happy ones too.
Are you not happy in marriage? Well, finding happiness in anything, whether in your marriage, family, friends, or in any relationship, is a state of mind.
When we want to be happy, we will be. However, if we find reasons for unhappiness, nothing can really make us happy – isn’t it?
I don’t say I have all the solutions to finding happiness in a marriage, but I’ve shared the keys or secrets that have helped me in the past and are still helping me make my marriage better.
Remember, to find happiness in a marriage or in any relationship, you need to work on it and keep it alive and young.
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Love and respect!
Ankit Ravindra Jain